the engagement

its been a while since i blogged rite? haha. yes. so be prepared for a few posts today! haha!

so. last weekend was my cousin's engagement.

gambar hiasan

my cousin in currently in mauritania, working. so this is sort of a long distance engagement thing? yeah. so i came over the day before, since my uncle's place is just 20mins away from here. lend a helping hand or two.

cleaned up the house a bit. mainly i helped my aunt with the hantaran. last minute stuff that needed to be done, like sticking the flower on top, or putting in the candies, or yeah. stuff like that. it ended up till way past midnight. we had to get a good rest cause the next day was gonna be a looooong day.

i woke up the next day to a video call from my sister. pfft! i wanted to sleep in that morning. tapi tak pe. lots to do. i got myself cleaned up and stuffed before heading out to find roses for the tepak sirih. on the eve of chinese new year (13th Feb), where in the world are you gonna find a florist? lucky thing, these people want untung, so they keep their shops open!

and so. i started rushing on the sirih. my aunty showed me what she wanted to do, and i did it for her. i had to finish it quick cause it was almost noon.

when i was about done with that, my family arrived. my mum wasn't feeling so well. cough and cold. fever. the whole package. but since its my cousin's engagement, so its a must must! they left the house at 5am! yet they reached juru at 2pm! gila jem! crazy. myra pon tak mandi lagi. in her pjs. hahaha. busuk!:P

anyways.the rest of the day went by like a blur. almost everyone invited came over to the house. it was packed. they had a small tahlil by the men while the rest of the ladies sat in the available rooms making no space for us to change or even pray.

its a thing for these people. they will come over to your place, say all the hies and how r yous and go camping in you room. yeah. they do that. everywhere!

and so at about 5.30pm we all made our way to UMA, in penang island. everyone went. in separate but full cars. yup. its a grand event.

i met up with my sister there. she came from the hotel near by. since my mum wasn't really feeling well, she decided to stay in a hotel. easier n much more comfortable.

i'll let the pictures do all the talking yes? :)

 

  

 

 

anyways. i learned a few things regarding the mamak wedding/traditions. 

1. they will suap gula to the bride. this i already know. but this time around my aunty switched the gula with chewy sweets. less sweet, easier to take in big spoon fulls. 
2. the guy gives the ring (typically) but the girl gives money in return. i don't really understand this part.
3. those who came supposedly gave money to my aunty during the engagement. this i don't know why either. 
4. apparently, they don't have such things as hantaran but instead the family gives a bedroom set or something as a wedding gift.
5. there's also something regarding the pots and pans. a whole stack of them. being passed down to the girl, for later on when she gets married. supposedly to prepare her days of cooking at her in laws. or something like that. i didn't really grasp the meaning behind that.

there are a few more i think. wasn't really paying that much attention. interesting things you learn from their culture. something to ponder on. yeah.

 

  

 

that was an interesting engagement.

congratz abg alan! :)

xoxo